Sunday, April 15, 2012

Staying at Home...and Working Hard

There have been times in my life since becoming a stay-at-home-mom (SAHM) that I have felt looked down upon.  Have you ever met a person for the first time who almost immediately begins looking over your shoulder as you talk to them, just to see if there is someone "better" that they might be able to meet?  This has happened to me several times, and many of those after the infamous question, "So, what do you do?", had been asked.  Hilary Rosen is definitely one of those people.  

Recently, democratic strategist and DNC adviser, Hilary Rosen, decided to let her views be known on SAHM'S and their relevance pertaining to economic issues in the form of an attack on Ann Romney, wife of presidential hopeful Mitt Romney.  Here is what Rosen said during an interview with CNN's Anderson Cooper
"With respect to economic issues, I think actually that Mitt Romney is right, that ultimately women care more about the economic well-being of their families and the like. But he doesn't connect on that issue either. What you have is Mitt Romney running around the country saying, 'Well, you know my wife tells me that what women really care about are economic issues and when I listen to my wife that's what I'm hearing.'  Guess what? His wife has actually never worked a day in her life. She's never really dealt with the kinds of economic issues that a majority of the women in this country are facing in terms of how do we feed our kids, how do we send them to school and  why do we worry about their future."  
If I could do a non-scientific poll of families who have a SAHM, I would bet on a few things: 1. The families don't have super-high incomes, but many times have actually designed their lifestyle to fit their goal of having a SAHM. 2. The SAHM has just as much knowledge and concern about economic issues their family is facing, in fact I would bet that many of those SAHM's actually manage the family's finances either wholly or in part.  To say that because we work within the home (and, believe me, it is hard work!) makes us irrelevant on economic issues is insulting.  And, to assume that all families with a SAHM is wealthy enough to have no need to worry about their family's economic future is also wrong.  I am proof-positive of that!

What is ironic to me about what Hilary says is that she claims SAHM'S are out of touch with "a majority of women in this country", but the truth is that she is the one who is out of touch with a majority of women in this country.  I think a majority of women in this country would place a high value on what Ann Romney has to say.  She is the epitome of a strong woman.  A breast cancer survivor.  A woman battling multiple sclerosis.  A SAHM who raised five BOYS!  Grandmother of 16.  To say that Mrs. Romney has never worked a day in her life is not only wrong, it is laughable.